Everyone has a story to tell

You can use these ideas and tips to craft true, first-person stories, i.e. stories from your life with you as the main character.

The best stories describe a memorable experience that changed you or made you see the world differently, in a grand or subtle way. These personal stories show growth and change without relying on clichés, morals, or lessons learned.

Stories do not need to be funny, or tragic or describe a major life change. They can be about small things that make us human -

A meaningful encounter with a friend or stranger on the bus. A time when you went out of your way to make someone feel included or when someone else made you feel special. A faux pas.

Focussing on the core of the story is important. A five-minute personal story is the description of a particular moment or episode in your life. Don't try to retell your whole life.

Discovery Ideas

For individuals:

• Dig your memories for small moments you wish were filmed or captured
• Do you recall an episode from your life that is funny in hindsight but wasn't so at that time?
• Have you pursued something to the bitter end or given up a goal?
• Are you drawn inexplicably to a person, place or object?

For classrooms:

• Brainstorm a wide range of emotions. Then have students pick 2 or 3 emotions and write one or two sentences about an experience they had related to those emotions.  
• Brainstorm a list of “firsts” or key moments in childhood (e.g. first day of school, first loose tooth, learning to ride a bike, the arrival of a sibling). Have students 2 - 3 prompts and write one or two sentences about their own experiences. 
• Tell students to imagine the fire alarm in their home has just gone off and they need to leave quickly, but they have time to grab one item. Ask them to write why they chose these items in only 2 sentences.
• After generating 2 or 3 ideas, have students share them with a partner and then pick the one that the partner is most curious about.

Listen to other storytellers to get inspired - here

Getting the Right Words – Editing

A story must have a beginning, a middle, and an end, but they don’t have to be in that order! All the parts of the story are equally important. Once you are sure that you have the necessary details, you can play around with the structure.
 

Don’t start with ‘this is a story about...”, just jump in. Stories often begin in the middle of the action - once the story is started, you can go back and fill in the details.

Show the audience through word pictures, don’t tell them. Look at the examples below:

• Telling: The scary dog was above me and growled and showed his teeth
  Showing: The muscular black dog loomed above me, snarling with saliva dripping from his jaws.
• Telling: The old man at the bank was impatient and grumpy.
  Showing: The old man elbowed his way to the front of the cashier queue and grunted in response to his hello.

Avoid descriptions or complications that do not move the story along. The first draft of your story might include a ton of extra information that you decide to cut or edit later in the interests of the story and/or your central message/idea.

Keep the number of characters in the story to a minimum. It’s okay to just tell us about one or two people at an event, rather than giving a list of everyone who was there.

Remember the audience is not made up of one type of person. Avoid generalizations that will annoy your audience such as ‘girls love doing their nails, so of course she bought nail polish…’. Try instead changing it to ‘she was a girl who loved doing her nails, so of course she bought nail polish…’ Good storytellers avoid or even challenge stereotypes!

Don’t use this as an opportunity to complain or make the audience feel sorry for you. A pity story is not a story your audience wants to listen to.

Telling Your Story Out Loud

You must practise telling your story aloud to get used to the sound of your own voice and make decisions on how you want each part of your story to sound.

Build pauses into the story to help the audience stay with you or to emphasize an important moment. If you say something that changes the direction of the story, give a pause to let it sink in.

Don’t just tell it at one pace. Some parts may sound better if you slow down or speed up or change the volume of your voice. You can experiment as you practice it.
 

Practice your story in front of a few people to see what kind of reaction you get.

To see what your audience is experiencing, you can also practice in front of a mirror or record yourself and play it back. That will help you decide when to change the pace or add a pause.

Don’t expect laughs if you put jokes in. The audience might not find things as funny as you do.

Have fun. It helps if you smile during the delivery (of the happy parts!), or if you look like you passionately believe in what you are saying. If you are sincere, your audience will believe in your story.